Tuesday, January 11, 2011

My Life In Magazines

Not long ago I had a stack of (well, three, anyway) magazines to read.  I was so pleased with myself.  I would be reading my rags to pass the time away...a past time I had not enjoyed recently.  I don't completely remember which magazines I had invested the time and money into on that recent afternoon.  Most likely it was one of the home decorating magazines on the stands.  I enjoy the photos in the decorating magazines and enjoy dreaming about using some of the ideas in my new home. 

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

The Redmond House (Seattle Area)

This is the house we bought when we moved to the Seattle area. It is in Redmond and was a great house for us. Once Danielle finished with high school, though, it started to seem to be too big. The house needs a young family...so we sold it to one. Here are photos to document what was a really pretty house.

We lived in the house for 5 years while Danielle was going to Middle School until she started College.  She was a student at Bellevue College, so she lived with us for the majority of the time.  As I said though, we did sell the house and spent the last two years in the Puget Sound in an apartment.  D got her own apartment as well.  Apartment living was fun as well....but that is another topic.

Monday, January 3, 2011

New Year's Resolutions

I had lunch with my sister today.  We met at the restaurant in my work complex.  I had fried shrimp and garlic fries. It was the first time my sis and I met for lunch during a work day.  She had the day off and came to me, which made it easier.  My point?  Garlic Fries!? I had garlic fries on the first Monday, the first work day for that matter, after New Year's Day!

Our waiter was fun and asked how we were doing on our resolutions. He said he had resolved to start smoking! Then he said he had quit smoking six years ago and it was one of the hardest things he had ever done.  But since he never keeps his New Year's resolutions, every year he resolves to start smoking.  So far, he said, it's helped him stay an ex-smoker.  ~ ~ Funny!

I enjoyed Max sharing his resolution so much that I shared mine:  To Gain More Weight!  And as I told him (and my sister) I've made great progress in this goal because I AM A DOER!

I decided not to beat myself up over the garlic fries because I drank like 24 ounces of water today.  --I don't like water.  I prefer diet coke.  But I know water should be on my Resolutions List.

Whenever I start to write my list I realize why I haven't written it yet:  I. Don't. Want. To! New Year's Resolutions are either "Do More" lists or "Don't Do" lists.  The "More" category is always things like: "Do More Exercise", "Lose More Weight" "Do. Do. Do. More. More. More."  The "Don't Do" category:  "Don't eat cake"; "Don't spend money"; "Don't drink Diet Coke".

Of course these resolutions just make me feel bad about myself.  Bad that I need to lose weight to begin with. Bad that I can't go a full day without Diet Coke (I like Diet Coke).  Bad that I don't want to give up diet coke.

Several years ago I saw the Jim Carey movie "Yes Man"...loved it! The movie came out in 2008, so I don't think I need to do a spoiler alert. Anyway, Jim's character ends up embracing the philosophy of saying yes to all opportunities that come his way.  --Literally saying yes to everything: "Do you want fries with that? ..."YES";  "Will you loan me ten bucks?" "Yes" "How about a hundred bucks?" "Yes".  Jim Carey found that by saying yes, even when it hurt, he was rewarded and enriched with new experiences. After seeing that movie I was inspired.  So, I decided to try it.  Before my "Yes Experiment", I found that I often said "I can't make it" when invited out to parties with friends.  Or I would say "maybe"...but never commit.  If I did say yes, I usually changed my mind (or got a headache) on the day of the party.  Why was I like this?  Truly I don't know.  The friends that invited me are people I truly enjoy.  And I usually think of myself as an extrovert.  So why not actually go to these parties?

I think I didn't see myself as the person that goes to parties.  I had defined myself as the mother of a teenager for the more recent years.  The person who is either too busy with family activities or too tired from work and mothering to have the energy to go out.  But I made a conscious decision to say yes to each and every party.  And, ZING! I had a ball.  Each one was as fun as the last.  I had fun. I shared many many laughs with friends and found pieces of me that I hadn't let out to play for a while. That was a good year for resolutions!  Until I became so exhausted I had to stop.

I think I may be onto something though.

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Blogging and Social Media

Day One of 2011 and I'm actually doing something on my resolution list.  --Writing..."Real Writing".  Not list making or doodling but writing. Writing with the goal of being read.  I think blogging may be much like sending a message in a bottle.  Sending the thoughts out to sea with the hope that it will be found, read and even responded to.

Blogging seems to be an extension of the social media that has exploded. I'm late to the party...but joining the party none the less.  And I'm excited to be here.

I posted my first Facebook Post on 8/20/08. I wrote: "How do you decide between Facebook and MySpace? I know I have a MySpace, but don't remember how to get to it. This could be fun, but I really don't have the hang of it yet".  I feel much the same way as I start this blog.  --I really don't have the hang of it yet, but definitely think it will be fun.

I quickly became addicted to FB. The immediacy of communication and "shout outs" continues to add another dimension to my friendships. Photos and videos add to the richness. When I first became an avid FBer it was a rewarding way to keep connected to friends and family that lived "back home" while I lived across the continent in Seattle, WA.  As my FB friending continued to expand I was able to enjoy the wicked humor of my Seattle friends. And live vicariously through some of them as they were fully a part of the urban scene. Now that I have moved back to my home town of Durham, NC I am able to still enjoy the friends that I have come to love so much.

Recently one of my friends deleted his FB account.  --I assume he deleted his account rather than simply defriending me.  I am sad that he is gone and fear it will be harder to keep up the connection using old fashioned methods.

I have always enjoyed staying in touch with my friends even when our geographies have changed. My husband and I made our first major move from Durham to Va Beach when we were young in our marriage.  There I found a friend that deepened when I became a mother.  We were young mothers together, taking our children to parks to play, going swimming with the kids and even taking them to an art museum.  We really enjoyed each other and gave ourselves permission to pursue our interests...children in tow. When Jordan and I moved again my heart ached for my friend. But we were both avid letter writers and our friendship endured and became even more intimate over the years.

Sadly, we both dropped our pens at some point. As I grew older I found myself with an exhaustion that led to writer's block. The FB medium has created a refreshing and spontaneous way to stay in touch. I believe that intimacy is as much about the "everyday" and one liners as it is about soul searching sharing.

I once had a boss that railed against technology's increasing place in our society. She believed the new generation entering the work force are plagued by a sort of Attention Deficit induced from the immediacy and accessibility of information.  She also believed email to be the beginning of the end of "real" personal connection.  I can only guess that she would believe Social Media like Facebook would be further proof of her theory.  I, however, believe just the opposite is true. 

My most recent post to Facebook:  Kimberly "Is going to start a blog...stay tuned"